Comments on: The Crossdresser’s Wife: A spouse’s perspective

By: Rahul Savla

Rahul Savla — Sat, 23 Nov 2024 01:53:04 +0000

I loved reading these questions and answers and learning a little bit about the dynamics of your marriage relationship. I wish you both the best! Thanks for sharing, I found it truly inspiring and comforting.

By: M

Sat, 07 May 2022 08:25:59 +0000

In reply to Steff. I'm glad I read this I came out to my wife a few months ago she has been so understanding she has even bought me some dresses and things

By: Myron Smith

Myron Smith — Sat, 07 May 2022 08:11:26 +0000

In reply to Melanie Collins. Thanks for sharing I just came out to my wife and she is very understanding and has even bought me some bras panties pantyhose dresses and makeup shes really understanding

By: Domannique Brown

Domannique Brown — Sat, 27 Nov 2021 17:07:42 +0000

So my exwife and I used to go out all the time while dressed. We actually had a room in our house that we told our friends was a college students that we rented our room to. Yea, I had my own room. We would speak of my fem self in third person often. Wife “I think Domannique and I are going to hangout at after work today. I am going to meet her in DC at the waterfront at 6:30.” Me, “OK. i will be chilling at home for the night.” That was my que. It was awesome.

After our divorce I kinda mentioned it to a few people that I dated and they were not into that. My current wife was curious and I dressed for her twice but she was frightened by my passability and likeness of a genetic female. At the time the world only saw crossdressers as gay men. She was concerned of my sexuality. I understood. I stopped for a while but learned that this was a part of me and not just a passing fad. I mentioned it to her again and she said she would prefer that I didn’t. So I agreed but since I feel I cannot stop so I have been dressing in secret for years. I would dress at work, on travel, when home alone and any time I have a few hours to myself. I really want to tell her but I know if I do I cannot say that I have been dressing since the day that she told me to stop. I would start a new day with her if she would go for it. Here lately she has expressed that she prefers me to have a goatee vs a smooth face. I am not completely against it but it does hurt when I have to grow my hair out for her since I do NOT dress while I have facial hair.

Maybe one day I will tell her.

By: Joanne Watters

Joanne Watters — Sat, 28 Aug 2021 18:10:11 +0000

I wish I knew the secret to finding a woman who accepts my cross dressing. I have been fooled by a number of women in the past which led to my public embarrassment in front of family & friends. My ex wife was the worst, I told her of my dressing as a woman when we first started dating, she said it was not a problem & would even help me with picking out outfits & my makeup. Our third year of marriage, she told me we were going to a Halloween party, all the guys had to go as girls & the girls go as guys. She said she wanted to blow everyone away with how she can make me look like a real woman. She took me to the salon she goes to & had them give me the works, my body completely waxed, a pedicure & manicure, my ears were pierced, my eyebrows were waxed into pencil thin lines with a high, feminine arch in them & the worst thing she had done, which I didn't know anything about until I looked in a mirror, was she had my shoulder length hair, cut, colored & styled into a women's look. My wife had me wear a black, velvet, mini dress with shiny pantyhose & black, platform heels, that showed off my bright red toenails, I had black. oversized, hoop earrings in my freshly pierced ears & my now blond hair, filled with curls. She sprayed me with perfume & gave me a black, clutch to carry. We got to the party about 9:00p.m., everyone was in the finished basement, we walked down the stairs & as I hit the bottom step, all I heard was laughter & seen camera flashes. Turns out there was no costume party, my wife had told everyone she worked with what a sissy I was & how I wanted to be a girl. My sister was there along with my parents & all of my closest friends, my wife then announced that she did not want to be married to another woman so she was going to divorce me, she said I should have no problem finding a nice boyfriend, this was all said in front of everyone I knew.

By: Natalie

Natalie — Sun, 20 Dec 2020 21:26:41 +0000

I loved reading your post. It’s really encouraging to know the beautiful relationship you and your wife have. Keep up the good work.

By: Gill Oliver

Gill Oliver — Fri, 06 Nov 2020 21:37:25 +0000

Thank you for your site and the piece from your wife’s perspective. We have been married 38 years and I never knew about his dressing. Though he has said he suppressed it for years while the children were little. I found out by accident this July and have been in turmoil. I haven’t known where to turn or find advice. Looking on the internet has just freaked me but your wife’s answers have helped. My husband is very happy now I know and accept, but doesn’t want children,family ,friends in fact any one to know . I do know he belongs to a support group, meanwhile I have no one.

By: Joanna Mills

Joanna Mills — Fri, 06 Sep 2019 00:35:34 +0000

You are a peach!

By: lorrrain

lorrrain — Thu, 21 Feb 2019 03:45:40 +0000

In reply to Lilly. dressing when i was ten wereing sisters clothes still dressing at fifly love to be able to do makeup hope to meet mrs wright good luck all

By: Jeff L.

Jeff L. — Wed, 30 May 2018 21:24:08 +0000

In reply to Steff. That was a nice reply. Jeff