So when you’re dressed as a man I assume you prefer to be called be the male pronoun of “he” and as a woman you’d prefer “she”? That was something my friend and I weren’t totally sure about at a drag show but I figured that if they were currently dressed as a woman they wanted to be called a “she”. Yeah, when I’m dressed up as a woman, it seems only right to be referred to as she. Being called “he” when I’m dressed up generally means that either I don’t look good, or the possible that the other […]

Ask a Crossdresser: Pronouns

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Probably the biggest fear I have as I get older is that at some point I’ll come to a place where I feel like I just won’t look good anymore when I dress up. I’m 30 now, and every so often, when I look back at pictures from ten years ago, I can see how my face has changed. How it’s aged slightly. Where the lines will probably come in, or have started coming in just a bit. It’s not terrible so far (+1 for moisturiser!), but they are there – and in all likelihood, it’ll just get worse. Frickin’ […]

A note on self-acceptance: The sooner, the better

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You mentioned going into public and getting respect whether you’re dressed as a woman or man, I was wondering about work and such. Where do you work? So like if you work as a crossdresser then obviously it’s okay at work, but I’m wondering how a different job/co-workers react if one day you come in as a man, and the next as a woman? So I work as a software developer in SF, which is helpful, since it’s probably the most accepting place in the country! It took a long time for me to start dressing at work. We had […]

Ask a Crossdresser: Work

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I remember reading an article a while ago about how coming out doesn’t just happen once, but that it’s a continuous process of self-revelation each and every time you meet new people. I guess it must have struck a chord with me, because I found my self thinking about it recently as some circumstances at work are changing, and I feel like I’m coming out as a crossdresser to people again.

Coming out as a crossdresser – over and over again.

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Heels. We all love them. From kitten heels to skyscrapers, they’re a great way to complete a look, and can make or break an outfit sometimes. But when you don’t have a pair, or you’ve bought a pair and can’t for the life of you walk in them, you (or at least I) inevitably end up searching online for “Oh hey, how the hell are you supposed to walk in those?!” As it turns out, it’s reaaaaaaallly not that difficult – read below to learn how to walk in heels with confidence! A little backstory first, I guess.

How to – Walk in Heels

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I had some time, while on a recruiting trip, to make good use of a somewhat-decent hotel room :) I ended up taking a *lot* of pics, and as it turns out, I ended up liking quite a lot of them, so it seemed like it made sense to break these up into two parts. The first set is mostly fairly tame, while the second set gets the tiniest bit more risque :) Anyway, here goes!

My Second Photoshoot – Part 1

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