Comments on: Validation

By: Isabelle

Isabelle — Wed, 04 May 2022 06:07:29 +0000

Oh this is a trap that so many of us crossdressers fall into and continually suffer from. Even the prettiest also yearn for likes. There is always some flaw or imperfection we wish could be corrected. My guy mode can be a potato, but since my girl self went onto Instagram ans Facebook, I full appreciate how 16 year old teenage girls get self-esteem issues.

Sadly i think the measure of a crossdresser is very superficial. But it is partly because it is in line with ua wanting to BE female, or at least the female version that our minds conjures up

You’re right on point about social media being unhealthy and the need to restrict the consumption of such. Or at least do a reality check now and then when the envy monster goes out of control

By: J

Thu, 16 Jan 2020 08:30:44 +0000

You and AlmostAshley and the 2 not females that I hope to see more of. Beautiful is the lowest praise I can give.

By: Phoebe

Phoebe — Wed, 01 Jan 2020 22:05:43 +0000

Your utterly stunning.
Ignore the naysayers. It’s easy to criticize when you have nothing invested.
If they can do better then let’s see it. Let them place themselves upon the alter of judgment and see how they fair.
I know it’s a difficult task But we must not judge ourselves too harshly in comparison to others.
So what if Amy is prettier than Rachel. Maybe Amy is transitioning, has been on hormones for 2 years and has had cosmetic surgery?
You can’t compare yourself to someone who was blessed with better bone structure or had alterations done.
And it’s entirely possible that other gurl is an utter hoe.
As far as being worth it. You are a wonderful person.
You have a loving wife and child at home, loving family members and colleague’s who think your worth it.
Who gives a rats ass what some stranger thinks?
There’s your Validation sweetie.
With Love:
Phoebe ;)

By: Craco Monti

Craco Monti — Sun, 08 Dec 2019 12:59:47 +0000

You should be careful. This craving for social aceptance could be dangerous. And you have self esteem problemas, so you are playing with fire (believe me, i`m one like you) I’ve saw your pics for years and believe me, you have the femininity im missing more and more in women everyday. You know we are talking about superficial issues. You like pretty dresses, your face is cute and i love beautiful girls like you on high heels. So you have to look for PEACE of MIND and not for social aceptance, less in the shape of electronic clicks that mean aprovation. I’m in Chile, more than ten thousands kilometers from you and i love your beauty and feminine style. But believes me, you have to toake it seriously, dont crave for mass aprovattion that is just a mirage (my native is spanish, so sorry for the spelling)

By: Lisa K.

Lisa K. — Sun, 08 Dec 2019 03:01:18 +0000

You’re pretty. Love the dress and the nice painted toes poking thru. Love your pictures too. Thanks for posting.

By: Kostas

Kostas — Tue, 03 Dec 2019 22:27:00 +0000

You are pretty

By: Liz Summers

Liz Summers — Sat, 23 Nov 2019 21:16:37 +0000

In reply to Natassia Crystal.

^_^

I love it too :D but yeah, maybe I’m looking for it in the wrong places. I suspect that I’d be a lot happier if I didn’t want it :S Definitely agreed that getting out and about is much, much better though!

By: Natassia Crystal

Natassia Crystal — Thu, 21 Nov 2019 16:21:02 +0000

Okay.. so let me start by saying you’re pretty!! :)

Right, let me then say that I love validation.. I would be lying if I pretended to just post for the heck of it. I know some people actually do approach their online presence like that.. they post and then never look at the likes, the comments and they also rarely (or never) interact with those who post comments.

Not me, I like both the attention and the interaction.. but 5 to 10 years ago, I would also be refreshing all the time to see how many likes or upvotes a post would get. I think I just grew out of it because it cost so much time to continuously check everything.

Also, I don’t let the actual online interaction determine my self-worth and confidence. And I think that this became easier the more I actually went out into the real world. Giving lectures, attending dance lessons and giving dance performances as Natassia made me realise that the online stuff is nice.. but no substitute for what I could be doing by going out that front door.

Having said all this.. the actual platform also is important in determining how much importance I give it. I know that Flickr , YouTube and Instagram work the best for me. Both in terms of what I want to post.. and the feedback that I get. Reddit is not really the platform for me even though I do post over there. So I actually don’t care if a post only gets a few upvotes. And Facebook is purely for keeping in touch with my Dutch and EU friends.

Instagram hiding the likes is good step.. but I do find myself occasionally wondering how many likes a post (not mine) has received in relation to the number of followers of that account. I do hope it has the intended effect on the mental well-being of the users.

Anyway, enough rambling from me.. hope you have a great weekend (and that you will wear the corresponding shoes).

Oh, and you look pretty! :)

By: Giselle

Giselle — Mon, 18 Nov 2019 21:07:24 +0000

In reply to Giselle. I emailed ya back =D. Let me know!

By: Liz Summers

Liz Summers — Mon, 18 Nov 2019 18:46:42 +0000

In reply to Stephanie Locks. Agreed! I still need to find a way to be happy with myself and not constantly measure myself against other people. The problem with all social media is that it invites you to compare the highlight reel of everyone else to your own B-roll, which will always be a losing battle. I have decided to make the making of a Welsh Love spoon my own personal quest :D