World be damned, indeed! (Given the current situation with COVID-19, it might be! :S)
There are women out there that don’t fit into some people “ideal” of femininity, and so that’s a struggle that even they, whom we aspire to seen as, have to deal with. Focus less on what your giveaways are, and maybe what you can accentuate! I’m really into jewelery right now (I have literally 10 rings on my fingers, 4 toe rings, 2 ankle bracelets on right now :D) – work with what you’ve got, and focus on being happy more than anything. As hard as it is to come to terms with, what other people think *really* doesn’t matter. Your thoughts and your feelings shape your view of the world. Change that, and the rest might just follow <3

Hi there!! I’ll never fully disappear :D it’s just been real busy lately :S There’s definitely been a trend of trans* bloggers disappearing off into the ether – I’ve seen it happen again and again, and I’m resolutely opposed to that being me :D

So stay strong, I’ll be posting again as soon as I find the time!!

I know you are busy with work, wife, and a kid.

I used to follow this youtuber “Ask A Transexual” she stopped because she ran out of questions of things to explain. What I do not think she realized was that I was not just there for questions, but for a trans person to watch. I don’t care if she had just talked about her lawnmower or her video games.

I just live in the middle of no where and don’t have any real t friends. I mean over the years I did, but a few have passed on, several quit, and the rest just moved away.

If you can not, thanks for making the blog, I have enjoyed it. I LOVED seeing the photos from the party’s you had at work. Those looked so fun. 10 years ago or so, I grew my hair out long in to go as a girl to a work halloween party. I guess I did too good of a job because they just did not know what to take me as. They were floored. Lunch came and time for the party, and no one would talk to me, not even my cousin. Now I have been to the mall and other places no problem, was an age appropriate outfit, not over the top, just super realistic. A few talked to me at other times of the day, but not at the party. I literally had to leave the party, you could hear a pin drop, they were so mean. I had always wanted to come to work dressed, I mean network administration, good grief can do that in a skirt.

I watch this girl Chloe Arden now, I don’t think 18 year old t girls know how easy the have it compared to the past. Well she is from a big city, I mean really mom I want to be a girl… mom…ok.

Tabetha Ann

How often have we been asked “Are you passable?”.Well that is certainly a bit rude , but it doesn’t always mean the person asking is a jerk

For me, my goal is to be attractive and in my youth I hit the goal on occasion.
But it was always in a controlled context, not walking a whole bunch, not talking a whole bunch and making sure my strong points were very visible.
But I never answered that boorish question with a simple yes. I always say a true women takes care of details on so many levels that I would need to be always en femme for 4-5 weeks just to start to cover all the nuances.
Many times I have looked bad and I still remember the day I realized dear god,I’m starting to look like my mom!

We can’t completely ignore the pressure for women to look great, but we can accept that we do what we can,when we can and take enjoyment form those moments

I don’t think it’s selifsh in a bad sense – we’re allowed to find our own happiness :)

Thanks for reading!

I don’t think it’s *too* much work – but it’s definitely work! Isn’t doing things with companions always a lot more fun? :D When I go out, it’s usually either to work (which I think counts as with companions!) or with some friends to a bar/club/restaurant/whatever :)